For a variety of reasons (mostly his, but some mine) I still haven't seen him this week. I told him to just handle the stuff on his plate, but to come to the party Saturday with me that I am playing at. He said he'd "try" (he's moving this month and has friends available to help him do some of it Saturday). I made it clear that I expected him to come (new for me, normally I'm much too self-effacing).
I'm going to make it even clearer today, just so there is no mistaking it. I asked him weeks ago to reserve this date. Yes, I know he needs to get stuff done, but he can knock off by 5 pm. Just this once. And if he doesn't, I'll know he's really not capable of being my guy.
This could work out well, though, since his brother is coming to help and he talked about maybe bringing his brother to the party - I would get to meet his brother, they would get to meet my friends, he would get to see me play some rock and roll
