W called my cell phone early this evening. Said she was calling to ask me a legal question. SS shot a neighbors window with a bb gun... accident. Neighbor asked W to pay to get it fixed. W was calling me to see if she needed to get neighbor to sign anything saying that she was not liable for anything after the window was fixed.
I know that I could be wrong, but I really think that W just came up with that as a reason to call. Pretty coincidental that W decided to call me on this issue later in the day after I had called SS to see how he was doing.
Anyway, after discussing the 'legal issue', W apparently wanted to keep talking. She talked my ear off about her jobs, her new place, SS, etc.
It was a very similar conversation to the one that we had last Thursday. W acted like she just wanted to talk and talk.... I mostly just listened.
A couple of interesting things that W mentioned during the call:
1) SS is 'furious' with her for making him change schools by moving,
2) She struggling financially
3) Her new place has lots of issues - W said that she was having to adjust to having an older place when she has been used to having a large brand new house with new appliances etc.
4) Her new place has lots of bugs and spiders... she hates all types of insects... she laughed when telling me about this, but I think it is bothering her.
I may have read this incorrectly, but I really think that W sounded a bit nervous while talking to me tonight. She started the convo out by asking me, 'is it okay if I ask you?'
There was definitely none of the anger in W's voice that I have had to put up with most of the past 6 months.
For my part, I was very friendly with W during this conversation even though I mostly listened.
When we got off of the phone, I looked to see how long we had talked. We were on the phone for 35 minutes.
No R talk... No talk of OPs...
As with the contact on Thursday and Friday, this leaves me wondering what is going through my W's head.
BITS Denver
QUIT PULLING UP THE CARROTS TO CHECK ON THEM, DENVER. You're not allowing this (her, missing you) dynamic to GROW and DEVELOP.
FEAR is making you constantly engage with her, and it is those engagements that are HOLDING YOU BACK.
Everyone is telling you this; yet you keep touching the hot stove, over and over and over and over and . . .
