KD: I don't think anyone here was aiming for perfect in a new R. When I mentioned setting high standards - I meant - not settling for less than you deserve. Such as someone not that "Into" you, someone with bad habits, or a bad job history, or debt with no repayment plan or who cheated on their last partner, or who was a deadbeat to their kids or who just wanted sex and no relationship or who was a bit abusive in words or actions etc. Not once did I ever mean "Perfect". But after all we went through - who wouldn't want someone "Good" for them. If you just wanted someone, anyone - why bother at all? So many risks - emotionally, physically, STDs etc. Safer to just stay home - IMHO.
So, please don't confuse what I meant in what to look for in a new person. I listed things I hoped for in a compatible person. I got some of the things on the list, but not all. I did end up with the one I found most suitable. But then - he found those things in me too.
In addition to wanting those features in someone else - you need to work on yourself to be the best person YOU can be. And then, sometimes - you don't even have to go looking. Someone else will find you.
