I did tell him in April that I would no longer tolerate him swearing at me, or not speaking to me for days. Neither of these things has happened since and if they were to occur again, I would definitely leave the room (when it comes to the swearing).
OK, that's good.
You don't even have to state a boundary, although it's often "right" to give fair warning...
A boundary must be enforceable.
So as above, if he swears, you leave the room... or hang up the phone... eventually, he'll stop... as you say, he's already not doing those things and you didn't have to enforce the boundary.
Originally Posted By: Endeavour
He's just telling me he doesn't see himself getting old with me, or that we're not compatible, etc. Even when he texted me more of his list on Sunday, he prefaced it by saying he wasn't trying to heap all the blame on me.
Stuff like the above ^^^^ cannot be directly set as a boundary.
Except... through EXTREME LRT... the boundary being, "I will not stay in a M with someone who is not willing to work on the M."
The enforcement would be to file D...
That's a boundary that most people aren't willing to do...
But re framing some of the above might allow for a boundary.
But rather, it may be better to set up 180s to deal with it...
Become someone he wants to grow old with...
become someone he's compatible with...
But ONLY if it is right for you. Become a woman only a fool would leave...
