E, you have a lot on your plate: an emotionally immature H who has,or had,a drinking problem; a child suffering from depression and an eating disorder, and your own experiences with emotional and physical abuse at the hands of your parents.
Do you feel like you need to "be there" for everyone, especially your H?
What would happen if you did tell him that you've had enough of his behavior? If you set your boundary that you will not tolerate his on-again, off-again approach to your marriage?
Perhaps he does need to see you pulling away to knock some sense into his head.
I don't know about you, Endeavour, but I am thinking Telemark is pretty stinkin' smart! YES, YES, YES to everything said here.
