E - Hang in there. I can see how you would be very emotionally exhausted. It sounds your H has a decent picture of where he is and where he wants to be, but doesn't have a clue how to get there from here. At least he's willing to try or at least put on a charade of being willing to try.
The incompatible argument also sounds like such a cop-out to me. It can get very wearing on you.
