What were you thinking your W might ask?

I agree that it will be best to talk AFTER you have talked to a L anyways.

You can go in with the facts. Be clear. Confident.

I will say this man. If there was a time to NOT bring up R talk. This will be it.

If she try's to engage in this. Don't engage back. Remind her that this is for your S and you S only. That you are being the FATHER you can be.

Keep it focused.

Good luck.

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