I'm Walking Away Now

[bboom]

My GAL activities have been on the backburner lately. The kids and I moved out a little over 2 weeks ago. I have been busy getting the kids registered in new schools and extracating myself from the utility accounts at the former house, plus continuing to work full-time. I asked my L if I should continue to pay the gas/electric/water/sewer bills for the house since W was still living there and we were still married. His response was "Do you want to pay the bills for a house that you aren't living in, duhh?". That's all I needed to hear. I paid everything up till 7/30 then I had my name removed from everything. I dropped the rope and my W is on her own. It felt good to cut her loose.
My current focus is keeping the kids occupied for the next few weeks before school starts and helping to get them settled in. Once school starts and we get into a routine, I'll get back to focusing on me.
As far as my STBXW is concerned, I have the following:
I don't care what she is doing, or who or what she is doing it with.
I am seeking full custody of the children and I want her to pay me child support.
I know that she gets half of the marital assetts (It's a given in N.J.)and I'm OK with that. I also know I will pay her alimony for 3 to 7 years, and that doesn't bother me either.
I am looking forward to being free of my W and it's taken me a while to realize that she is not the person I would choose to spend my life with. She isn't even someone I would choose to be friends with. I have no respect for her as a person.
As the old saying goes: She has been weighted and measured, and she was found wanting.
Don't get me wrong, I'm no saint, superhero, or perfect person, but I can honestly say that she doesn't meet the quality standards for someone I would want to be involved with.

But, I will not speak bad about her in front of the kids, and I don't want others to either. She will always be their mom and I refuse to drag them into the drama. I hope that some day she will be someone that they can respect and be proud of, but she has a long way to go.