I think what True is trying to say (and forgive me True if I am wrong) is that when making the decision to stand and honor your vows, certain things can and should happen.
You should get to a place of detachment. That comes from understanding and accepting that your spouse is in a MLC.
When detached, really and truly, the things they are doing, while hurtful, should not stop you from moving forward.
In order to move forward, we need to let them go. Love them unconditionally and let them go.
When we do, we allow ourselves to look inward and become the person we are meant to be.
And then what people tell you matters not.
We wish our spouses peace and we find peace within ourselves.
Though it's not what we thought on the outset of all this, it is still a wonderful outcome.
I hope that is clear. I hope I didnt get it wrong, True.
