Regarding your request for insights to other MLC'ers reflections, this is an email sent to me from a former neighbor who left / entered MLC (I now believe) 5 years ago, abandoned his wife & 3 kids, they eventually divorced, and now he has little to show for his new life and freedom ... Thought you might find this interesting.
The advice you gave me without judgement, is really the only advice I listened to. I went through it and came out the other side. I made the mistake of jumpinginto an instant rebound relationship and never took the time to get over it. After I blew out the relationship with the chick in Texas, I took a job in Corpus Christi and was by myself quite a bit. I went to mexico every other weekend or so, drove up the beach and camped, thought and then started the process. I drove south toward Tampico and camped, gulf breeze blowing, listening to Buffett and it gave me peace.
I think it's great that you guys are just separated and I remember how you two were together in our block parties (Which I miss by the way) I always thought you two were great friends as well as good together. I am saying this not to give you false hope, but feel that it is a phase she is going through.
She is holding on to the independence she probably remembers the last time she was single, it's a whole different scene now. I'm not writing this to depress you, but there will be a void in her life, the absence, the quiet. This is something she is not probably even anticipating.
We are not talking about our feelings kind of guys, just know I went through it an know her point of view and have seen the entire process.
Peace Haole.
The picture is where I spent the Dia De La Muerta In Matamoros.
