I research everything to death. It's my thing. I need to know both sides of a situation before I make a firm decision.
So I read books on relationships. I Googled. Then, I found this site and I was inspired by so many of the men that post here. I never knew men cared that much about marriage, or that they could talk about their feeling in such great detail. I had never experienced that before and it gave me hope...
But if it was one thing that stood out for me, it had to be a question that a friend of mine asked, "Can you honestly say you have tried everything to save your marriage?"
My answer was no.
Then in a book on contemplating divorce there was a similar question about consistently acting with integrity.
Again, I couldn't say that I had...
I do love my H.
I do wonder if our problems our insurmountable at times.
But we have children.
And one day, I want to be able to say to them that I did everything that I could to save my marriage, and that I honoured my commitment to the end. That's the legacy I want them to remember. That's what I want them to learn about marriage.
