rysmom, I've been following your threads for awhile now...
Do you read the excellent advice you get from so many concerned posters?
It seems like you gloss over what you don't want to own or acknowledge.
And you keep spinning round and round.
Your H gave you vegetables because you're the mother of his child and he's trying to be cordial. I wouldn't read anything else into his niceness. He's not a spewing angry alien but...
Has he ever had to really truly miss you? Or even the option of you?