OK KD, i understand it better now. venting, saying the words out loud, etc. and i took it literal, as if you've given up.

and i responded with me being overly sensitive to my own regrets based on your situation.

i have been at the point of just throwing my hands up and saying take what you want, leave me with what you dont and i'll deal with it later. and in some specifics i had done that, and these became the areas of regret. whether its because i feel i should have been stronger at the time, or because i gave up more than i should have, or now those are the areas of conflict.

so looking back its those times where i/you have to be stronger.


and your aunt is very wise. your w is setting her expectations very high, and will be disappointed and will blame you.

"In a ham and eggs breakfast, the hen is involved, but the pig is committed".