I've been following your threads for months but only recently started posting...
So many times I would read what your W said to you and I'd want to set her straight...or slap her.
I agree that she really needs to take responsibility for her part in the M (because based on what she says to you, she's no angel). The whole victim act is not going to serve her well in another R either.
However, you're doing an amazing job at keeping your cool and being a strong dependable man who has owned his own issues, and who is working on being a better person. Good for you.
I wish she'd give you more credit. Although, I think she is noticing and this may be what is causing her to give you more grief. She still wants to drag you into her drama because that's all she knows. As they say, you're being the change you want to see and eventually, she just may follow.
