Hello Peter, I haven't posted to you before but I've read along.

I'm sorry you got upsetting news about what your W shared with her friend. That couldn't have been easy to hear.

However, I don't think it has to change your path.

Her feelings at the moment are not set in stone.

When I was considering leaving my marriage last year, I said the very same things your W said to one of my friends.

I changed my mind because I did a lot of reading and reflecting...

You are showing your W that things can be different, you are changing, you are making an effort.

She could be noticing but is still unsure. She has reached out to you a few times. I think there is still some hope.