She starts with "Sorry, I have been so sad for so long. I am emotionally tired. ILY"
During it she says things like "I'm afraid these changes won't last", "Some of these changes are so contrary to how you've been", "I believe you. If changes don't persist, it will be so painful".
I did my very best to validate her fears ("your fears are understandable"), and also re-assure her that the changes in me are not temporary.
It ends with "I am willing and I will stay the course. Our marriage must evolve. ily"
Very difficult conversation for me. Not heated or tense at all, just painful and difficult. I know I can't read her mind, but I think she must be going through the process of wanting to believe, and being afraid to believe. I have to think this is a normal step.
Has anyone ever mentioned that piecing is not easy? Since piecing started my physical anxiety symptoms are back - I have constant tingle in my arms that really [censored] and my heart races. I didn't miss those when they were gone.
M: 39 W: 37 Married: 9 D5; S3 "It's Over" 09/26/10 11 Day Sep 10/10 Piecing Starts 11/4/10 Piecing Fails 4/11 I move out 5/11 Hire Lawyer 6/11 - Stall 6/22/11 Piecing #2 - 6/22/11 Home 10/11
