WAW in Los Angeles

[wawinla]

Update:

My WAS asked a month ago about using our house to host a birthday party for the daughter one of her employees. I said fine. The party is this weekend, so she reached out to me today. She asked the following:

"I just wanted to touch base with you that for XXXX's birthday party on Saturday, XXXX and I were going to come by Friday afternoon to set up and also prep some food in the kitchen. We will probably be there some time after 2 o'clock. If you're there, great. Otherwise, I can let myself in with the key.

I also wanted to know if I needed to arrange to have a maid service come in to tidy up. Do you think that's necessary? If it's just light cleaning, XXXXX and I can do that too when we come on Friday. Just let me know either way.

Finally, if you are around on Saturday (11 am-2 pm), you're welcome to join the party. I wasn't sure if that was clear before or not. It would be nice to have you there, but if you already have plans, that's fine too.

How are things with you otherwise?"

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I still struggle with getting emotional high/low whenever there's contact with my WAS. I fight the urge to mind read and over analysis each word.

Any thoughts or insights? BTW I will be home on Friday and there's no need to get maid service, I've kept the place super clean, one of my 180's. Should I attend the party? I know the folks that will be there, friends of mine as well but obviously closer to my WAS.

As to her inquiry about how I'm doing, cynical side of me thinks she's asking since she is curious on whether I've gotten a new job. Optimistic side of me thinks she maybe curious to how I am. Reluctantly, I'm thinking the former and not the latter.