Treading water - time and patience

[NYCPeter]

Well - have a bit more clarity on my sitch and I'm getting the feeling that though the changes will be good for me, it's not going to save my M.

Not sure I event want to go out with W tomorrow night - I'd rather spend it with someone who wants to be with me.

Met a friend for lunch - W confided in his wife over the weekend that she's given up on the M, she's sticking it out to get some $$ together so she'll be able to cope for a while until she is back on her feet (I wondered why our joint account is always so low).

She basically said that it took her a long time to realize how unhappy she was and it took going to IC to say something to me. She wants out and she doesn't care how much I change - it makes no difference. I am promising her a new M and she has no interest in going there.

Glad my friend told me, certainly clarifies things - I really don't understand how someone can do this to another person. MC is just a sham.