David, Glad you came down here to the MLC forum.......Cadet has given you some good info to look over.
As I said before, MLC is a different animal and can get really ugly at times......fortunately you seem to be taking things in stride, I definitely aplaud you for keeping calm, it will help YOU stay on track.
While MLC is a different animal your actions and focus are the same.......YOU do things for YOU and focus on your life and living it to its fullest potential.
It there that you will find your happiness and strength to be the very best father, friend and yes husband any man could be.
Cheers
Formerly "missherlove"
Me49 XW49 M17 T19 S16 D20
Expose yourself to your deepest fear; after that, fear has no power, and the fear of freedom shrinks and vanishes. You are free.