WAW for 6+ years -- Need Help

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Hi dbmod.

Well, let's see. Wife is still lingering. I have not heard about her missing OM in over 4 weeks; however, I did tell her that she needs to make a decision soon and she stated yes, soon, but not to push her. I honestly think she's still holding out hope that OM will leave his wife. It has now been 12 weeks since OM told her he was going to a lawyer to see what he would 'lose' if he left his wife (OM's wife told him she was taking him for everything if he left her). OM stated he does not want to 'lose' everything he's worked his whole life for.

Anyway, I told my therapist that I decided on a go or no-go date. I am giving my W until 30 Oct (my birthday) to move in one direction or the other. On 31 Oct, if things have not improved, I plan to ask her to move out. I don't want to go through another Thanksgiving, Anniversary (1 Dec), Christmas, New Years, etc., in this arrangement.

W has also not mentioned being depressed or missing OM in over 5 weeks but I can't help but wonder. I haven't asked her though. That's her problem. I'm started working out ...AGAIN... I stopped due to work, school, and home tasks, but decided that I really needed it even if its just to get out of the house by myself on the weekends.

Still trying to master the GAL theme, but it's hard. Last Friday morning, I went and worked out and then got a haircut so I was out for awhile. Then, I stayed downstairs on Friday and some Saturday working on homework and cooking dinner.

I don't know. She teases me, but then acts like she's afraid to or doesn't want to commit to anything. I just go by the motto, "only believe 50 percent of what you HEAR and SEE." So, in my mind, she's waiting on OM and I need to accept that and continue to improve myself. Don't stop working out for any reason! College is going well. I got an A in my last class and I have an A in this one so far (two classes left in this subject)..WOO HOO!!

I do try to look at the positive and will continue to be as "happy as happy can be" even though I don't feel like it sometimes. Funny, though, starting to feel less depressed these days and more upset at putting forth all this effort and doing my best to save my M while W just cruises along not wanting to rock the boat or afraid to make a move. I am trying not to bring up the R so I don't become 'unhappy or sad' in front of W. However, I'm more upset these days then sad and I let her know that too. She didn't say anything just acknowledged what I said.

Therapist was like "what's three more months if that's your plan." So, I'll keep on keeping on and trying my best. We'll see.

As always.....Semper Gumby!