Little Old Fashioned Karma

[MHL]

For most of us when this *crap* hits the fan we get wrapped up in a warped sense of psychological time. Everything exists in the past and in the future. Our mistakes of the past. "What will happen" in the future.

This ignores the only real time we have. And that is now.

Hey Country,

How many of you BITS guys are there??? I think you guys came here by the dozen....:D

Thanks for the compliment on Denver's thread......

BUT

I am not the only one "dropping science"......

That thing ^^^^^^^ up there about time is spot on!!!!

I will try to scan through your threads over the weekend.

I will say this you seem to be in a good place.

Cheers

[♪CS♪]

How many of you BITS guys are there??? I think you guys came here by the dozen....:D

LOL, more than any of us would like, I'm sure!

Thanks man.

Things are good on the ranch. Life. Different. But good.

[2stepboogie]

Dec 5th is my X's bday

At the time the separation was less than two months old. It was the first day I began to journal. I remember the day well.

If I had to describe it in one word

Dark

You on the other hand are moving along

I have seen your growth first hand

Your willingness to help others is inspiring

I started to read some of my old threads a few days back

I did not realize you were there so early on.

Thank you

As for today? Well it's over.

Today is the tomorrow we worried about yesterday.

Best Wishes and keep on keeping on

[♪CS♪]

Thanks 2step, it means a lot.

I remember when I first came to the boards.

Yours and Denvers were 2 of the main active threads. I learned a lot reading them.

FOBD was another. Wonder what he is up to? It would be nice to hear from him again.

Peace man.

[2stepboogie]

Yours and Denvers were 2 of the main active threads. I learned a lot reading them.

Seems like years ago. ugh and a sigh.

FOBD was another. Wonder what he is up to? It would be nice to hear from him again.

Peace man.

He is well. Maybe he will make an appearance to let you guys know how he is doing

[♪CS♪]

He is well. Maybe he will make an appearance to let you guys know how he is doing

Good to hear. Hope he does.

[♪CS♪]

Nothing very interesting, but WTH. I haven’t posted any type of update in a while, so….

I texted W last night to arrange picking up D this afternoon. I still need to get the online calendar thing setup. Main issue there, W is not much of a computer person. I could see it not working very well with her.

The other thing that had to be determined is a new meeting place, since she is now moved (in with OM ) and is coming from a different part of town.

Hey, at least this part works in my favor; we are now meeting very close to my work.

Now, quick preface here. She has been taking no initiative herself on these things lately. If I had not asked about the details who knows what she would have done. Then, she replies with…

A big long text about how she is going to go on a trip with her mom this weekend and how her and her mom would love for D to join them. Asked if we could switch this weekend with the next (i.e. She gets D this weekend (my normal) and then I get D the following.) She ends it with “if not, I totally understand.”

Also, her sister, BIL and nieces are going to be in town so she would see them that Sunday as well.

So she has had this planned long enough for her to take this weekend off from work, which is not very easy for her to do. So it has taken some time. But then she doesn’t bring it up to me until now?

Well, I have already rented a boat this weekend for us and some other family. So I let her know that we already had plans.

Then her response, it was a bit of a gut blow. Basically, “OK” then added that this trip was planned with her mom and her dad, so now she is going to go. She also said she would take D up later in the week to see her cousins.

Bam! Ouch! (for those who don’t know her dad passed away completely unexpectedly in May)

I am guessing it will be a tough trip for them.

But I am going to keep my plans with D this weekend. Shoot, already have the security deposit on hold for the boat.

But that still hurt a bit. I can sometimes forget how much see must still be hurting by the death of her dad.

I didn’t word it well, but her text just sounded….very sad.

So…. I will see her after work today and then again tomorrow morning to pick-up/drop-off D. Really hope D doesn’t freak out again when I drop her off.

What is it? Like sand through an hour glass?

[jbnati]

CS, yes, that's more than a little tough. Curious why she waited until the 11th hour to ask about your D, though

[LITB]

CS, yes, that's more than a little tough. Curious why she waited until the 11th hour to ask about your D, though

It seems to me that most, if not all of these WASs feel as though the LBSs must go along with their plans. Their sense of entitlement is amazing.

Good for you CS for sticking to your plans. I realize that there will be times to be flexible, however not when it is last minute when you already have plans.

[♪CS♪]

Yeah, it is tough to say. One thing I have learned is that I am a terrible mind reader

It has been about a month since the Dr. appt incident. I have been completely dark since. Only necessary communication regarding D.

It took her about a week to get the idea.

So does she just avoid contacting me about the trip because she is uncomfortable initiating contact now? IDK. Pretty crazy if she can’t even do so for communication regarding D’s schedule. Her lack of initiative cost her the trip this time. I am not against tweaking schedules if it does not impact plans I have already made, or are easily changeable. Ample notice is needed.

The tough part about it was when she brought up that this trip was originally planned for her mom and dad to go together. That just choked me up.