Antonia - your post actually helped me to realise how far I have come, even from a few months back when I was still grieving. [I think this come in cycles too btw]. I still grieve occasionally, but now I can look at my marriage with affection and even amusement. He was a great guy, and now he is lost. I am a great woman and I found myself.
You are such a real person, and I think that when you have grieved fully you will know it and move ahead. Forcing the issue won't help you. Occasional friendly nudges are the way forward. Be gentle with yourself, and go with the flow! You will get there just the same.
