Phew! thanks for the advice to read Pearls threads - I have been reading them on and off all weekend and am going to continue - she did great - hoping I can be that strong and insistant!
H has written a no contact letter after I explained to him that I need to know he's told her where to go this time by seeing it with my own eyes. He said they haven't been in contact for months anyway and that it would be dragging things back up - I said "you hadn't heard from her for 2 years when she suddenly decided to hunt you down and contact you - I am not going to take that ever again, you need to tell her to stay out of our lives!" he got it when I said that - this is what he's written - I'd appreciate knowing what you all think before I send it?? To me it doesn't seem very strong considering what has happened. He has written it on the basis that all they've done is talk whereas I was hoping for a little more seeing as his letter states he loved her and they'd been having a PA!
Over the past few weeks (me) has gone through a lot of pain having found out we had still been in contact with each other I have appologised to (me) and promised that i will never make any contact with you again as I try and rebuild the trust I have broken. I love my family very much and I betrayed them terribly and now plan to build the bridges I have broken, with this in mind there will be no further contact from myself to you and as such I do not wish you to contact me.
