WOW! thanks for such a great post! I've read and re read several times - I think I know what you mean that I need to be more specific with him.
I think I have done this over the weekend - it has been an awful weekend
Saturday he was pretty awful saying there was obviously no point bothering because I was never going to believe his version of events. I said that it doesn't matter if I believe him because marriages can still be fixed if someone has had an A and that I didn't feel I could not believe his own words in his letter. I stated again that to recover I need a no contact letter, MC, total tranparency with access to his emails and phone and STD tests, although this time I did try to say I would need anyone I was married to do this as per Starky's advice .
He had to go out for some supplies for a project he is finishing in the house - he came back with a bead for my Pandora bracelet argh!!!! I do know from the 5LL book that H expresses love with gifts as he doesn't seem to do talking (exept to OW funnily enough!) but I just could not believe that when the situation is this serious and this close to ending our M he goes and buys some jewelry!!!! He said he knows it doesn't fix things but he wanted to let me know he loves me.
I agree with you that his reactions to my requests are speaking much louder than his words - he says he loves me, wants us to be happy again together but he is doing nothing!!
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