just say, "OK thanks for the information. have fun."

if you already had plans for you and the children, then say "I was planning to take the kids to X at Y o'clock, can you please have them back by then"

and yes, to invite her on your plans would be persuing.


and Johnnie, i'm sorry if i come across as cold, but if she wanted you to go, she would ask. and i do feel your pain, i was there too.

"In a ham and eggs breakfast, the hen is involved, but the pig is committed".