you have to find more strength than that. i'm not trying to imply its easy. but to walk past her without talking is not good. what you felt going through his town is normal, and had nothing to do with her but you took it out on her. you have to overcome that and not let it affect your interaction with her.
and no, you cant ask her.
"In a ham and eggs breakfast, the hen is involved, but the pig is committed".
