You are not coming off as combative at all......so no worries there.......we here tend to challenge people who come here to look at things from a different perspective and that sometimes and that leads to some "lively" discussion, again it is fine.
Don't try to undo anything that you have done or said at this point. For what it is worth I think your course of action is spot on..........
What I have found though is that most people are not ready for what that means. A better way to have gone about things would have been to just do it without the speech.........
It is okay......just moving forward I would limit contact unless absolutely neccessary, unless she wants to talk about working on the marriage.
That is good news about the utility thing.....you are smart for recognizing that you may not be "equiped" to see her.
Sooooo, now that you have made this decision to focus on you and not her or the marriage.........
What are you going to do????
What are your dreams???
What are your hobby's
Where are you going to travel to???
What is going to fill MTS's life so that it is overflowing and happy????
Hope this helps.
Cheers
Formerly "missherlove"
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Expose yourself to your deepest fear; after that, fear has no power, and the fear of freedom shrinks and vanishes. You are free.
