Basically, what my W wants regarding the kids, she wants on paper. She wants the D of course, and so wants certain things filed accordingly. Of course it was obvious she was holding back some why she wants this, but her reasons were that she wants to change her name and move on with her life and it will all be so simple so long as we (I) agree... ah... the fog of a WAS...
What will happen at this point in time, if we do go in front of a judge, is that she will get full custody of the kids (care and control and the whole nine yards) plus she will get child support.
There is no other possible outcome due to my personal circumstances as well as current situation with kids living with my W. As my L informed me, the court rules with complete prejudice first, when it comes to the kids. Everything else is secondary.
My W informed me that her entire family and (support) friends figure I'm trying to scr3w her. They are so unclear on how my hands are so absolutely tied on this.
Having that knowledge, because she still wanted to invite my side of the family over for D8's b-day this coming Sunday, I asked her how that would work.
Long story short, as I was trying to explain how her and her family appear to have the advantage on the emotional side of this D (considering that they've known and accepted this for at least a year; whereas my side was still hoping for R as recently as this June), that it might be a little awkward... I explained to her that having me and my family in a room with a group of people who absolutely have no respect for me and think I'm trying to take advantage of my W... how would that NOT be awkward...
Yeah... I think she finally "got it"...
From our conversation, it is quite clear that she has some "perfect" vision of how this will all work. She has had minimal L consultation, still believes that this is a matter of a couple thousand $ at best, and that she gets everything she wants in exchange for a cash value...
As expected, she has had a lot of... "recommendations" and "concerns" offered by "friends" and family. She is aware that I could get spousal support, but seems to think that she can convince a judge to waive child support in lieu of spousal... ah... right... again, the fog of a WAS...
I have no room for regrets.... regrets are not an option...
Unfortunately, the situation as it is... she wants to file D and go in front of a magistrate and no matter what I agree on financially, I loose my kids...
So... I can only put my hands up and surrender completely and leave it all in the hands of God...
*sigh*... it's amazing that, with the right information, people can come up with some really interesting perspectives...
