My MLC Story - Help is Appreciated

[Thundarr]

Well, I think I am finally starting to detach. My W showed up today around 6pm after the kids had waited all day for her. She knows they have to start getting settled by 8 so this limited her time with them, which I think was her goal.

Our D10 had been planning time to her alone and she ended up inviting our other two kids to go eat with her (without me of course). Our D10 got upset and said she wasn't going, so my W just took the other two and left without a second thought about her feelings or that she was upset. Not a second thought.

After they left, our D10 was really upset and cried alot about missing her. She really misses her being here on school mornings when she's getting ready. Incidentally, my W decided to stay at her parents' across town rather than drive home. She chose to stay there rather than here with her kids, and has spent half the last week at her parents' house rather than going home for some reason. She has moved to another town about 30 miles away and I think she either is lonely and scared down there or just doesn't have the gas money. It appears her mansion isn't the grand dream she made it out to be.

Our D10 decided she wanted to join them, so I took her to the restaurant to meet them. I spoke to them a little and then left, with the reason that their Mommy wanted to spend time with them alone. She didn't even look at me or speak. She looked like she was as down as if someone close to her had died or something. I walked out and took one look back at the family I had and left. I hurt tremendously but felt good knowing I was giving her a taste of life without me. She probably twisted it to me not wanting to spend time with them though.

She's started to complain about having to drive all the way here to see them. They haven't moved. She did. Tough crap. I won't keep her from seeing them, but I won't let her cake eat either.

She dropped them off and left like a thief in the night. She never told them where she was staying tonight. Our D18 had asked her to stay here tonight and she never even answered her. Oh well.

I've started a new job about 15 minutes further than the old one, but with much higher pay. I have a terrible time staying focused due to the hurt/ depression but they are understanding and I think it will be good for me in the long run. I really needed the money and it's a golden opportunity and with the same agency I've been with for 10 years.

Still nothing done toward the divorce other than her filing the initial paperwork. Either she's lazy or doesn't want it. She made excuses a couple weeks ago and said that she made an appointment but they didn't have anything drawn up. Lie. She also goes into Monster every few days now, and I'm sure my not seeing her spares me a great deal of that. I wonder if Monster shows up anywhere else in her day-to-day life?

Anyway, that's my update and I continue to move forward slowly. I still want my marriage restored and my old wife back. Don't know if that will ever happen, but at least I'm not alone. I have the kids full-time and I have to think that means she trusts me deep down. That may be a big key in her wanting to come back to me someday (I hope). Peace.