Because I just read in another thread that when the spouse is reaching out to you, then DB'ing would be to show them love. Instead the genius that I am, I withdraw.
Listen, I own the title DB FLUNKIE, so don't worry about being a DB'ing dingbat! DG is 100% right; YOU know your H and your sitch, and this DB business is trial and error. You give your best and try different tactics, and stick with what works. Maybe it's a good thing that you put him off for a few days instead of dropping everything at his beck and call to do some R talk. Anyway, when you do get together to "talk," do your best to LISTEN. Don't react (I'm the queen of reacting, never works...you could learn a lot from my mistakes). I'm pulling for you, and I'm in your corner. STAY THE COURSE.
DG is 100% right; YOU know your H and your sitch, and this DB business is trial and error. You give your best and try different tactics, and stick with what works. Maybe it's a good thing that you put him off for a few days instead of dropping everything at his beck and call to do some R talk. Anyway, when you do get together to "talk," do your best to LISTEN. Don't react (I'm the queen of reacting, never works...you could learn a lot from my mistakes).
