I get it - I really shouldn't hang out with this guy if I can avoid it. I'll tell you though, I really believe he's innocent in the whole thing.
Both W and EA guy said that EA guy kept asking W if I knew they were talking and W lied and told him yeah. He said she characterized our R as I didn't love her. Maybe I could see how she could have thought that, but I made it clear to him that was not the case and he was actually pretty supportive and helpful to ME during our discussions.
He's divorced and told my W his biggest regret in life was that his M ended and he was encouraging her to stick with it.
Honestly, based on input from my other friend - I believe he's not an 'active' threat. I'm sure he's still a 'passive' threat in that W was getting some emotional need filled through her interactions with him.
Me-44, W-38 S12, D10 --- EA: 3/20/11 Bomb: 3/25/11 "I'm waiting til June to 'do something'" statement from W: 4/26/11 Still in same house, in same bed