GG: Sounds like you're on the right track. If he is really that "into" you - he will not let your busy time deter him. Josh and I have both always taken turns driving to see each other - app 90 min each way. Now that we have a house together but he has to still work in the city - he drives 3 hours each way every w/e to be with me. It is all worth it if you really love each other. But for now - only time will tell.
KML: Have you met his family and friends or how do you know how they feel about him (other than his word)?
I DO agree about the money. I was just writing about myself there - I don't want to support someone else. I didn't need someone to support me either. I just didn't want to take on someone else's debt. Sounds like you've got that one worked out.
But no matter what. Only time will tell as your friends here have all pointed out. Just live one date at a time and see how it goes.
By the way - about 4 months into our relationship - Josh didn't call when he was supposed to. Or the next night. And I nearly lost my mind. I was at the cottage. He was working in Montreal that week. By the 3rd day I had all but given up on him. And all men. But I did make a list of the good and the not so good in our relationship (the good won out hands down) so I tried not to lose faith.
That afternoon I finally went into town. First time I'd turned my cel on in a few days. And it rang shortly after. It was Josh. From work in Montreal (he NEVER made personal calls on company time). Sounded frantic. Had lost the cottage phone number. He didn't carry a cel then and I didn't have his hotel number that week. Anyway - he was panicked because he was sure I would be extremely upset and probably dump him.
It was particularly hard on me because I was still recovering from my post D lack of self esteem and this time I had really fallen for him.
Josh never ever lost the cottage # again, made sure I knew how to contact him at work and even got himself a cel phone. And he ALWAYS called when he said he would.
Sometimes something needs to go wrong so both people can see how they really feel.
Watching Bridget Jones. Maybe you should watch it. Keeps you thinking about relationships. WIth some light moments.
