Wife no longer in love with me

[aeolianchaos]

know she has to take some blame too, but the majority falls on me.

Are you implying that somehow you are capable of having a supermajority in a relationship where each partner is responsible for there 50%?

Are you a tyrant?

You don't need to give up - the point of all of this isn't to redeem yourself in her eyes.

If its about redeeming at all, it's redeeming yourself in your own eyes. You need to see your own worth here, cam.

Owning more than your share of responsibility is just as counter-productive as refusing to own any of it. Either way you are distorting the picture.

I'm sorry if you feel like your M is over. Showing her your changes is important, but its more important that you see them and appreciate them for yourself. They ought to make you feel more integrated and

One thing to keep in mind about friends - they have their own interests at heart, even when they believe they have yours at heart - like family, they want to see you stop hurting asap and believe the best thing to do is just tear the bandaid off fast and start fresh.

I'm not saying they are right or wrong - just be sure that you are basing your decisions on what you know to be true.