cam, first, be careful of some of the advice you get from your friends.
Your friends love you, so they will give you advice to protect you. It is normal and if you look at it's roots, it is kind.
They are being your friend. That is good.
But look man. Let's be frank. Most of these situations do not end in R. So accept that. Our chances of repairing our M may be low.
But I believe it was Jack3 who said, and I am paraphrasing, [censored] statistics.
Look cam, the only way through this is through it (who said that?)
Regardless of the outcome, the path does not change.
If you are to fix your M, it starts with fixing yourself.
If you do not fix your M, well, then if you do fix yourself, you are in a perfect spot to move forward.
What do you believe you are 'done' with?
You?
I hope not.
Tell your mates that she does not define you. You are doing this for you. You only. IF she ever decides to reconsider the R, well, then you will be a man ready to do so.
Be well cam.
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Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.