Well, I think I'm doing the GAL okay but my original question was about ex actually giving me more financially than we agreed to. I don't care. Sure, I need the money I mean who doesn't but it doesn't make me feel grateful to him. If anything I think he is trying to alleviate guilt which personally I'd rather he wallow in. Is it necessary to respond in anyway to this?
Well, guilt plays a big part. I'm sure it had a lot to do with my exh's actions. I got all the furniture in the house because he felt so guilty.
I don't want to advise you on the money matter other than it might be good to talk to your solicitor about the implications. Primarily you have to look after you (and your children). Does it matter so much what his intentions are? Does it have a bearing on your decision?
Well, this is a temporary arrangement. I stay rent free in house and he doesn't pay support for oldest. However he tacked $100 on the support payment(for youngest plus spousal support) at least he says he will in an email he sent. Which I am keeping incase he wants to go back and says he prepaid on the suppoet.
You know, my xh did the same thing a few times. He tacked on extra when he could and I turned around and used that money for a specific extra for our son. That way, he was just giving extra money (that would have been OUR money before the D) to our son for a new video game or a pizza and movie night. That sort of thing. A couple of times that he did it we went out and did something fun together (son and I) and I took pics and texted them to him with a short thank you message from our son. Yeah, it was nice but I wasn't beholden to him in any way because of it because these were things we would have been doing together with our son if we had still been M'd.
JMHO of course. Do whatever you feel good about.
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
I know that. I'm just wondering how to respond to it now. I'm not in a very thankful spirit right now so that doesn't feel like the right approach. It would probably come out with a sarcastic tone.
Thanks for listening. At this point I actually feel the D was for the best though I still need to finish the recovery process. What is really funny is how so many of my relatives are now telling me that they didn't like my ex much and that he always seemed very cold. That kind of gives me a different perspective to look at him from.
