I received a bit of a reality check over the weekend from some friends about my M.
My wife and I have been "officially" separated for 6 mths now, even though it has only been since late April that she ended it. But she has shown no signs of ever getting this back on track and everything she says makes me reflect on all that I have done wrong. I know she has to take some blame too, but the majority falls on me.
I know this will never get back to what we had, and there has been too much damage now. If we ever got back then I would always be wondering if she's going to do it again, and I would struggle to trust her.

So, what does all this mean? Well, I'm done. I accept it now that my M is over, I accept that i will never get the chance to redeem myself and prove that I have changed and I could have been the husband she wanted.
It's been a tough weekend, but as my friends say - you have to let her go and start again and find someone who is going to be right for you.


M 35
W 31
Separated 2/2011 but still together
Ended it 4/2011
Together 8 yrs
Married 3.5 yrs
Lawyers involved 6/2011