XYZ is here longer than I ever imagined....

[XYZ]

Some updates....

First, yesterday W and I are sitting at McDonalds (romantic, huh?) watching the kids play on the playground. Having a good chat. W again mentions my work friend that is getting a D and about to move out. I say to her "I'm not sure if the timing will work or not, but I'm happy to mention the furniture to him, if you'd like". She says "when's he moving out?" I reply "Labor Day weekend, about 3 weeks". She nods, but doesn't really respond; I can see in her eyes that she's thinking. Didn't say "oh no way, that's much too soon". So....And one thing I know for sure about W is that she's a ponder-er. Wouldn't surprise me if this comes up again in 2 or 3 days.

Second, yesterday I did a very small, random act of kindness. W texted me, "that was very thoughtful of you, ily". That would be no big deal except that I've been making it a point to be more thoughtful like this for nearly a year now (since bomb-day) and this is the FIRST time she's ever said anything like that back.

I continue to feel like we're on the verge of greatness coming back. It's sorta like a pot of almost boiling water - you can see the bubbles on the bottom and just know that any minute the water will break into a rolling boil. But as they say, a watched pot never boils; so back to GALing, chilling, doing what works and...not watching the pot.




Harrier, I hope you're doing well, man.




Newcomers, if any of you are here, please know that what everybody tells you about time and patience is true. It's more true than you know. If you are thinking in hours, days, or weeks, then start thinking in months. I'm more convinced then ever that the minimum this process can take is 12 months. I'm sure some are less, but not by much. This can work and it will take time.