Snodderly, Thank you so much for your postings. I have reached a point in my journey where I want my husband to be OK much more than I want a relationship with him, if that makes sense.

I hope he can sort himself out and re-build relationships with his children, who have missed him so much, and even though adult, still need a father. I am much less sure what I want.

For a long time I wanted a marriage, but now, I truly do not know. I like my independence a lot. I rejoice when others restore their marriage or move on into a new relationship, but one of the things we find in all of this is ourselves, and for now I am mostly enjoying that.

Perhaps enjoying is the wrong word. It is an exploration, and sometimes painful, and sometimes lonely, but often it is good, or very good.