Possible WAW to Piecing? (Part 2)

[rh24]

So I REALLY just don't get it.

Very nice day yesterday with all the soccer games. W, MIL, D and me went to lunch together. W and I volunteered together last night - got along great. Last night we went to bed together - she got in bed first on her side and was sitting up watching tv leaving my side totally open for me.

Then this morning I mention that I wanted to play poker in our neighborhood with a group of guys consisting mainly of the husbands of her group of 'Pokeeno friends'.

She starts getting pretty crappy with me after that and I ask her what's wrong. She goes off on me saying "I told you to get your OWN group of friends. If we get divorced I do not want you hanging around those people. I feel like you're stalking me." She was also pissed because her EA guy was maybe going to be there too and she's pissed saying "You said I can't be friends with him, well I'll be damned if YOU'RE going to be friends with him! You told him not to contact me."

That was an interesting turn...I told her that I did talk to him, but we didn't get into the details of the conversation. When I did confront him, he apologized and said "I'll tell her we can't have contact anymore." I told him "No, I do NOT want to be dictating that. If she has that conversation with you - great. But I really don't want you to initiate a 'cut off' as any type of directive from me."

I told W that.

She was complaining about how good a friend he was. Sure, he IS a great guy. BUT - it was OBVIOUS from their calling pattern that HE was filling an EMOTIONAL CONNECTION NEED for her. I told her friends was fine, but there is such a thing as an EA, that I'm not making this up, that there are books written about it. She scoffed at the idea - of course whenever I refer to anything that is FACT and IN A BOOK she ridicules me.

She said "If you're going to play poker with those guys I'm calling every divorce attorney in town."

Got home and she's back to pissed and stand-offish with me.

I just don't get it. I really don't. I want to turn this day around to try to end on a positive. How the hell do I do that? She's dropping MIL off at airport now and we'll be at D's soccer game in about an hour.

This is SO frustrating. I thought playing poker with these guys would be a great chance to get a break from each other and she's totally trying to control my interactions with any guys who are husbands of her friends.

Most of our kids play sports together - it's like 'Who the hell else am I supposed to be friends with?!'

She keeps saying "Why can't you make friends with people from your work?" My office has 12 employees and 7-8 of them work at client sites most of the time. She's giving me a pool of 5-6 people that I can be friends with?!?!?!

Crap - I need to 'save' today, please help!