25years. I happen to know that my xh and ow are not happy - he described his r with her to middle son's partner very recently as 'over before it started' wtf. That was nearly 6 years ago and they still see each other, although they don't live together.
When she called while son was staying with him he looked depressed and was in a bad mood for the rest of the evening. Like your bil he thinks stuff happened to him.
BUT prior to MLC my xh was a very very nice man and was extremely happy with him.
A postscript, since starting to write this I have another email from xh thanking me for a pc I sent him a while back. Something that would have had not significance to anyone but us. I actually sent it because I was feeling happy and free, and wanted him to feel good, and know I would not have sent it unless I did feel good. But that was weeks ago . . . . . I feel I am dealing with someone with very little grasp of reality. A fact which my therapist agrees with. He see my xh as very unstable, and close to a breakdown. we shall see. I rather hope not, unless it provides him with the chance to finally sort out whatever sent him over the edge.
