STOP IT. STOP IT. STOP IT. Is exactly what I was trying to say. OT is right on the money here. As an outsider looking in - I am thinking - "What are you thinking?"
KML - for years you listened to others here and gave some really sage advice. Practical. Smart. What would the old KML have said to someone who wrote what you wrote? I know the answer.
You have found yourself a "F*** Buddy" - this one doesn't even amount to a friend with benefit because "FRIEND" usually is someone you've known for a while and have fun doing non sexual activities with.
You are so above all this - why are you shopping for a guy in the wrong store? (and I really do NOT mean you need to find him at Nordstrom or Macy's). When I wanted a new relationship - I set priorities. First - someone who had a career - made the same or more than me (because there was no way I was going to support someone else) - someone with great values and goals for themself - someone who had not cheated on his past lover - etc.
You are asking our advice yet you want nothing to do with it.
I have heard these ridiculous stories before. It is all lies. And even if it wasn't - this man is not a good match for you anymore than some 20 something.
If you want a good catch - go fishing in the right water.
