Just Be 2

[Denver_2010]

I believe I see this much like Starsky. I also see a pretty consistent thread running through the advice you've been receiving on this issue, Denver.

It seems to me most people agree with some version of 'I need some space, please let's limit contact to finances and kids' or, alternatively, and what I hear 25 saying, if she's going to contact you reasonably even if it's just to take your temperature, you have an opportunity to demonstrate some loving detachment and wind up the exchange with a quick 'Take care' that lets her know you intend to be polite and considerate but you're ending the conversation.

I think either approach would be preferable to responding and then just checking out. Seems a bit rude to me. I do know how challenging it is to walk the fine line though and it's just my opinion.

I agree. I will clean it up in one of those two ways. I haven't decided on which. Thanks Dantes, Starsky, CS, 25, MHL, and Gritter....

Denver

For the record, it's not that I don't think 25's way can work. It's that I don't think you can pull it off. NOT a knock, Denver -- just an observation. Because you're still very enmeshed with your wife, emotionally, and because she's so shrewd, I think she will very quickly learn to use any such exchanges as a means with which to draw you back into an R talk.

I of course could be wrong, but you have a pretty long observable track record now from which to gauge each method's likelihood of success.


Starsky

Maybe Starsky, but my attitude is much different than it was even 3 weeks ago.