you did VERY WELL. I also think your convo with her gf went as well as it could. Good for you.
You will never regret behaving with strength and dignity in the face of such pain and loss.
And you have.
As for the R talks, you have to demonstrate change to her.
So evaluate whether the talks are progressing or merely repeating themselves.
If there IS progress, listen and evaluate.
If there's no progress in the R talks, she's likely trying to see your marital history identically. That's impossible. In all marriages, points of view differ. Period.
So Instead, say "W, I am working on the lessons I learned. So now I want to live in the present & move forward...don't you, w?"
Make sense?
I hope you feel some sense of peace and pride in how you have conducted yourself lately.
Hold your head high. And keep the work on YOU, going.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
