Stillness

[aeolianchaos]

Are the R talks fairly similar? ie. Same content, same context?

They vary. WAW has been seeing an IC consistently (since the week after she walked out... ) and seems to be developing different insights than she had before she walked.

She seems to view her A as something she did to herself now, and that she doesn't understand how she let herself get to that point - so far removed from the kind of woman she wants to be. I'm not sure what to make of this - is it just a good sounding justification for getting D?

Is it a real sincere desire of hers?

Can she really tolerate seeing the truth about it?

I don't think divorce == clarity and insight about your personal screwups.

If the content is different in each convo... then the question is... are you LISTENING...? Because she's probably giving you insight into things that you might want to look into, of yourself...

I do listen. Some times, I do a better job than others. I need to prepare better for the next one, I think.

WAW has a real thing about needing people to like her, and it drives her crazy when she thinks someone is angry at her. Fittingly, she is really hidden about expressing her own anger - which I think creates a sort of wall around her feelings. Typically if she is upset by someone or angry, she will express it by criticizing them to other people rather than dealing w/ it directly.