Just found out that friends of mine are "trying to work things out", but bitter split...
I don't know if they were actually D.
They split almost two years ago. The best I can gather is he was the WAS with an A. Although knowing the couple, as "alpha" as he was, she wore the pants in the family. Three kids currently ranging from 14 to 19, I believe. Most recent comments from both of them in spring was that they never had a good M right from day 1.
They purchased our farm from us about 14 years ago and before she moved in (in '98), they practically gutted the house (40'x80) at her "requirement" and custom, architectural blueprints, and spent at least $250K additionally into it, including an attached, double garage. It was a decent house to begin with, the original addition being only 15yo when they bought.
Anyhow, he ended up buying her a new house and paying her out and I'm sure paying good money on support.
My BIL (my sister's H; this was supper conversation this evening) stated that this Feb., WAS was talking to my BIL at a local store. Said that LBS wife walked right by them without acknowledging them at all, whereas WAS' head did a complete 180 swivel as she walked by...
I just said from everything I've been reading on "the topic", it sounded pretty "classic" and I could probably guess exactly what was going on to get from that to where they are... lol
I'm happy for them and hope they work it out...
Just wanted to post that as another encouraging example of what can happen... even when things look their bleakest...
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BTW: It was my sister who actually lent me the DB book and I subsequently picked up DR. My BIL had an A about 15 years ago or so, maybe more (I don't think my sister was ever on this forum; if it was even up at that time).
Anyhow, while their M is still... up and down... they are still together and things seem more up, then down...
