isn't it sad (but useful) when you hear a comment that reveals how SHE sees YOU? She's expecting you to be upset by a small thing. And she's got reason for that expectation...(SIGH)
So, respond quickly, with a normal, healthy man's response, like "No problem. I'll do my best to get there!"
and recognize some of your behavior is simply the behavior of a bully.
Do you want to be that guy?
The fact that you are here, suggests you do not.
DBing can only help you improve your life.
But yes, you DO have to DO it.
No talking about it. The more you talk about your changes, the more they'll appear to be tactics.
Plus, some of them are simply "non bullying" behaviors. Don't expect applause.
But hey, the more she's with you, the more you need to "hear" loud clapping and know you do have an audience watching you.
IMO, she WANTS to believe you'll change for real, permanently. She wants to be able to trust you and to feel safe with you.
She doesn't have amnesia.
She has a lot of images/memories to cope with, and to erase from her mind/heart.
You have to help her do that by proving yourself worthy and changed.
Keep at it. Come HERE to vent...
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