OT, good to know you got my back - and that all my friends are so willing to defend me from the Big Bad Wolf.
That being said - I AM trusting my instincts on this one. Whenever I am with him, I think "What a good man he is". It's just that I have become somewhat insecure, with all this midlife dating madness, such that when he's not here, if he's not communicating the way I think he should, I am jumping to the worst possible conclusion.
I DO believe his story. He IS broke, I already knew that. He had major brain surgery a year and a half ago, his business is new, he's supporting his mom and has a minor child to support. I also know he has NO debt, lives within his means and always has, and came up from the poorest kind of ghetto upbringing. I admire him for that.
And truth be told, he may be a little bit ADD - if true, that might end up being one thing that is hard for me to deal with. But I really don't feel I can make any judgment about that until he's through this busy spell - right now, the guy gets up at 6 a.m.some days, works until 3 a.m. others - really tough hours.
He couldn't have called me on a friend's phone, because he doesn't know my phone number - it was in his phone, that was the only place he had it. And he was afraid to just come over unannounced to my house, because he knew I had the French house guest (who he has never met) and he might have worried (unnecessarily) that a large black man showing up at my house could be a problem if my family or friends were here. (He hasn't met them yet - I guarantee my mom is gonna love him to pieces). He said if I hadn't called in another day he would have come by the house and left a card.
We've never communicated by email so he wouldn't have my email address.
Now - he might turn out to be a guy who doesn't have enough time for me - I'll have to wait and see on that. It's not fair, I think, to judge him on this past month, which has been crazy for both our schedules. And since I really DON'T want a guy who wants to see me every day (I'M too busy for that) it's more a matter of whether our communication can improve - and whether I can just relax a little bit.
