She's started to talk about her ground rules but anytime I bring up my boundaries she quickly says it's over and she knew it would never work
You were the one who cheated. She doesn't feel like you qualify to speak of having boundaries. I think it would be to your advantage to be quiet and just listen to what she has to say.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
