so i know i have some changes i need to do, just little time to do them
Why little time to make changes?
If you see that talking to her about the R is actually hurting the situation, then don't you think it would be rather dense to keep doing it? I mean, how's that working for you?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
