I have a question (from someone far removed from you):
V was from an Eastern culture when you met - seems that she ended up being a much different person than you thought. Could it be that the big difference in culture made her more reserved until she was "Westernized?" I could imagine being very shy and/or deferring to the predominant culture if I landed in, say, China...not being totally myself, not knowing what I could share that wouldn't be insulting or taking the wrong way, even non-verbal cues and habits.
If that was a possibility, could that happen again with this woman? Is it something about that particular human state that they are in that is attractive to you?
I am just seeing lots of parallels between your initial R with V and who you are attracted to.
I know, for myself, that I probably have a broken "choser." At a gut, non-intellectual level, I am attracted to the same alfa males with too much testosterone and not enough brains that my ex is the poster child for. I'm not going there again, though. I want to find a "nice guy," a geek, someone as smart or smarter than me. Not just a pretty face (although the personality is much more paramount). A beta-male.....not an omega!
